Last Friday, my husband and I went on a date. It’s a miracle! This was our second real date since Samuel was born.
Before we had Samuel, we were one of these annoying married couples that didn’t date. We said we did, but we didn’t. We didn’t spend extra time putting on nice clothes. We didn’t choose nice restaurants. We hardly went to the movies but a couple of times a year. I think we kept saying we were trying to save money. We’re always trying to save money. We.Were.STUPID.
I never realized that when you have a baby under a year old, you can’t wear lipstick or perfume, and there’s absolutely no purpose in doing your hair or wearing anything that isn’t made of stainless steel – especially if you have a boy.
So on Friday, we pulled out the stops. I wore perfume (God, it was wonderful.) I wore (and reapplied!!) lipgloss. And I wore a.new.outfit.
Now, if you know me personally, you know I hardly ever buy clothes, particularly clothes that are on trend. Usually, I’m scouring the 50% off rack for a $3 T-shirt I can wear for the next 10 years (seriously, I have [several] items that old).
But once a year, this shopping extravaganza is put together in Austin to benefit the Junior League. Boutiques, specialty realtors, gourmet foodies, it’s all there! And I budget myself a set amount for this thing. I force myself to take cash to spend because otherwise, I’ll talk myself out of everything I pick up. And I attempt to not feel guilty about what I buy (even though every year, a different person has told me how expensive something I bought was ::roll eyes::).
I found a sweater dress (gasp! no leg holes!) and leggings to match. And Friday, I put them on with my knee high boots (the dressy kind – I’m not on trend enough to have the ugly, I mean, Ugg kind).
That night, and several days since then, my husband cannot stop talking about that outfit. It was fitted, yes, but it was also special because he doesn’t get to see me dressed up very much. If you’re a mom of littles, you (and your husband) understand. (And if you’re not a mom of littles, go on a special date every week. For real. Don’t be like me.)
Of course, we can’t afford a special date like that all the time, and we certainly can’t afford or coordinate all of the childcare it would take. I’m not saying you have to go anywhere to have a similar effect. This Friday, if you’re staying in – After the kids are in bed, go put perfume on. Touch up your makeup and put something on your lips. Wear some fancy undergarments and put an outfit on you just can’t wear around the kids (for whatever reason you choose :)).
Do it. If you’re brave, let me know in the comments how it goes. Or send your husband to do so.
P.S. For some reason, a lot of married guys read my blog. 😉
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