Wear Perfume and Play Dress Up

Make date night special

Last Friday, my husband and I went on a date. It’s a miracle! This was our second real date since Samuel was born.

Before we had Samuel, we were one of these annoying married couples that didn’t date. We said we did, but we didn’t. We didn’t spend extra time putting on nice clothes. We didn’t choose nice restaurants. We hardly went to the movies but a couple of times a year. I think we kept saying we were trying to save money. We’re always trying to save money. We.Were.STUPID.

I never realized that when you have a baby under a year old, you can’t wear lipstick or perfume, and there’s absolutely no purpose in doing your hair or wearing anything that isn’t made of stainless steel – especially if you have a boy.

So on Friday, we pulled out the stops. I wore perfume (God, it was wonderful.) I wore (and reapplied!!) lipgloss. And I wore a.new.outfit.

Now, if you know me personally,  you know I hardly ever buy clothes, particularly clothes that are on trend. Usually, I’m scouring the 50% off rack for a $3 T-shirt I can wear for the next 10 years (seriously, I have [several] items that old).

But once a year, this shopping extravaganza is put together in Austin to benefit the Junior League. Boutiques, specialty realtors, gourmet foodies, it’s all there! And I budget myself a set amount for this thing. I force myself to take cash to spend because otherwise, I’ll talk myself out of everything I pick up. And I attempt to not feel guilty about what I buy (even though every year, a different person has told me how expensive something I bought was ::roll eyes::).

I found a sweater dress (gasp! no leg holes!) and leggings to match. And Friday, I put them on with my knee high boots (the dressy kind – I’m not on trend enough to have the ugly, I mean, Ugg kind).

That night, and several days since then, my husband cannot stop talking about that outfit. It was fitted, yes, but it was also special because he doesn’t get to see me dressed up very much. If you’re a mom of littles, you (and your husband) understand. (And if you’re not a mom of littles, go on a special date every week. For real. Don’t be like me.)

Of course, we can’t afford a special date like that all the time, and we certainly can’t afford or coordinate all of the childcare it would take. I’m not saying you have to go anywhere to have a similar effect. This Friday, if you’re staying in – After the kids are in bed, go put perfume on. Touch up your makeup and put something on your lips. Wear some fancy undergarments and put an outfit on you just can’t wear around the kids (for whatever reason you choose :)).

Do it. If you’re brave, let me know in the comments how it goes. Or send your husband to do so.

P.S. For some reason, a lot of married guys read my blog. 😉

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19 thoughts on “Wear Perfume and Play Dress Up

  1. Alicia @ Alicia's Homemaking

    Hey girl! This post cracked me up. 🙂

    We love going on dates, and aim for going every other week. We keep it simple because my husband’s in grad school…but we do budget “dining out” money just for our dates! We normally are able to score free childcare from college students in our church. 😀

    Loved the part about wearing stainless steel. I have a little boy, too.

    1. Stephanie Post author

      Hey Alicia! LOL, thanks, I’m glad it made you laugh! If I’m not wearing durable clothing, I’m bound to get pantsed! Haha.
      Good score on the free childcare – that rocks. Good for you guys for going every other week. I’m impressed! =D

  2. GSV

    We just went out last week, and had a blast!
    I found myself thinking 2011, let’s resolve to spend more time and money on us (which in turn means less time and money on the little one). We’re worth it!

  3. Brandy

    We’ve been married 8 1/2yrs now and haven’t gone on an out-of-the-house date in about … hmmm … 8 1/2yrs? We had a couple a week or so before we got married, but after that, nothing.

    {um, I should probably explain. We met online, talked for 2yrs, then I got on a Greyhound from Michigan and went down to South Carolina to meet … and marry him, if he was the same in person. 2wks later we were married. 😀 }

    But we have date nights 2x a week, after the girls are in bed. We watch movies, or talk, or play games, or … well, whatever we want. Neither of us dress up often … but I HAVE been talking about how I’d like to look more put together more often. lol

    He’s off tomorrow night … maybe I’ll surprise him 😉

    I totally forgot about Wedded Wednesday and don’t have anything for this week. But I’ll try to be more prepared next week lol

    1. Stephanie Post author

      I think date night at home is *almost* just as good – as long as you make it 100% about you two – and make it special in some way! I think you should try dressing up once – just for fun. 😉
      Yes, do join the linkup next week – I’d love it!

  4. Brandy

    OH WAIT!! I’m TOTALLY wrong.

    We went to 3 movies the year that we lived with Jason’s family. His mom watched our oldest for us.

    But that was 2yrs ago.

    Dunno where my brain is today LOL

  5. Donna - WWAHHMpreneur

    I so love your blog. Thanks for sharing! I agree that dating is VITAL to keep a marriage healthy … like tending to a garden means you have to water it and protect it from pests.
    I also love your linky list, and added mine today.
    (For some reason the code you entered is not working right on my site … the picture is not there, just two small blue quotes that are hyperlinked. Plz help.)
    8)

    1. Stephanie Post author

      Glad you’re here!! Hmmm… You can try deleting and replacing the ” symbols. They look funny to me. Next week i’ll put a code box so we don’t have that issue again. Thx for letting me know!

  6. Angela Mackey

    Stephanie…What a great reminder. My husband and I have been married for 10 years now. We saved so we could go on a special anniversary trip to Hawaii. With three kids it is difficult to get out, but it is soooo important to work on our marriages. After all, our kids should (if they are healthy kids) grow-up and leave us. Our spouses should be with us until one of us dies. I pray I have a great and growing relationship with my husband 50+ years from now.

  7. Mel

    One thing that Mark and I do is babysitting swap with a friend that has kids in similar ages/numbers. We do evenings so it’s mostly “couch sitting”, i.e. watching TV while the kids snooze. However, when the kids were younger, it might have involved a night bottle, etc. This is why it’s so important to find another family in the same “season” of life. We watch their kids one evening, they do ours the next or the following week.

    It’s FREE babysitting and I don’t feel guilty about calling her up because I know she wants to go out with her hubby just as bad as I do!

  8. Stephanie Post author

    Mel – Yes! I would love to find people who want to do this. It seems that everyone I know in our “stage” has family nearby who watch their kids. I hope we’ll find it someday!

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