So what is submission really all about?
Submission to our husbands is really all about us submitting to God.
In describing how submission is sometimes a trial of suffering, I pointed you to 1 Peter 2 and 3. There, we learned that submission is something that Jesus did when he went to the cross. To whom was He submitting? To the Father – to “him who judges justly” (1 Peter 2:23).
Did you know that we as Christians are called to “live a life of love”? Want to know how?
live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice for God. (Ephesians 5:2)
Christ loved us by submitting himself to the Father’s will! Even though he asked for the cup to be taken from him. “Yet not as I will, but as you will” (Matthew 26:39)
We’re even told to “submit to one another out of reverance for Christ” – notice this is in Ephesians 5:21 – just down the page from 5:2 that I quoted above. Paul is calling the believers in the church to a life of holiness, and that includes believers submitting to each other.
Have you ever had someone call you to the carpet about a sin issue in your life? Yeah. That’s what Paul is talking about here. That includes when a wife, in love remember, points her husband to a sin issue in his own life. His spirit is supposed to submit out of reverance for Christ.
Why, in this case, is the husband to submit to the wife? Because he is actually submitting to the Spirit of God. He repents because he has offended the Holy God of the universe first and foremost. Most likely, his sin has also had an impact on his family, including his wife, whom he should love as his own self (5:28).
Can I bring up just one more verse? I promise I’m not trying to make you crazy with quoting scripture. I’m just trying to process this topic in the most healthy way possible – through the Word.
In James 4:1-6, James is revealing our selfish motives. That we want and never quit wanting. That we will harm each other to get what we want. That we ask God for things only out of the neverending want.
He is asking us to cast off the desires of the world that multiply in our hearts. Instead,
Submit yourselves, then, to God…Come near to God and he will come near to you. (James 4:7a,8a)
And he continues to call us to repentance in the next verses. Do you see how God is faithful to us? When we submit to Him, he is right there embracing us and guiding us!
And this submission to God includes submission to the plan he set forth for marriage. A plan that includes us submitting to the leadership of our husband.
Out of reverance for Christ.
In submission to God.
It’s really about trusting that what He put into motion with Adam and Eve was the right way!
So if you’re struggling with submission to your husband, you’re struggling with submission to God. Let’s pray that we will trust God’s own, deliberate plan for marriage. If we start there, he will come near to us and guide us to submission in our marriage.