When you go on a date with your hubby, do you do anything special? Do you wear a dress? Put on fancy perfume? Actually bathe?
Before we had children, we rarely went on dates. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: stupid! Please go on as many dates as humanly possible before kids. Spend money. Dress up. Stay out late. Don’t wear jeans.
Now, anytime grandparents are in town visiting, we’re like, Uh…. could we go on a date!?
Of course they always say Yes!
We’re already eager just to be together and have uninterrupted conversations, but date night also makes me eager to dress up and get all fancy-schmancy for my husband. Why? So that he is reminded that I am his and he is mine.
Your cheeks are beautiful with earrings, your neck with strings of jewels. We will make you earrings of gold, studded with silver. (Song of Solomon 1:9-10, NIV)
The fragrance of your garments is like that of Lebanon (Song of Solomon 4:11, NIV)
You have stolen my heart, my sister, my bride; you have stolen my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. (Song of Solomon 4:9, NIV)
Now, in Song of Solomon, there is lots of gazing and describing of each others’ God-given bodies. And I’m not going to pretend the focus is on the eyes. It’s pretty much everywhere, especially underneath the clothing!
However, the lover (i.e., man) does focus on the eyes at least a couple of times:
How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes are doves. (Song of Solomon 1:15, NIV)
How beautiful you are, my darling! Oh, how beautiful! Your eyes behind your veil are doves. (Song of Solomon 4:1, NIV)
In chapter 1, the lover and the beloved are getting married, and in chapter 4, they are about to consummate the marriage.
How often did you gaze into your husband’s eyes on your wedding day and soon thereafter? And how often do you gaze into them now? Yeah, it’s kind of pathetic to think about, huh?
But he wants your eyes to rest on him. And he wants his eyes to rest on you.
So back to date night – I always, always make sure to enhance my eyes for date night. After all, Brad will be looking at (mostly) them during our entire date.
There are three things that I always do to get date night eyes:
1. Touch up and darken your makeup.
Whatever makeup I put on that morning, I touch it up and darken it. I re-powder, and always put extra blush, eyeliner, eyeshadow, and mascara. And of course lips! You know those always need work.
Darkening your eyeshadow and eyeliner will enhance your eyes and change your look from daytime to date time. Plus, sometimes it’s DARK on dates! He won’t be able to see your normal makeup anyway!
2. Use a highlighter around your eye.
This one might be new for you, but it’s my absolute favorite accidental-makeup find. I got my Benefit Highlighter pencil (get yours using that link!) as a free gift with purchase quite a while ago. I thought I would never use it, but I always pull it out on date night.
You can use a highlighter pencil in several ways. For example, you can “draw” a line under your cheekbones and smudge it in.
But I use it most often on my eyes. Here’s how:
First, focus on the inner corner of your eye – the corner by your nose. Use the pencil to trace that little corner. Don’t be shy about using too much; it’s subtle (and you can always smudge it in if it freaks you out haha!). Once the corner is nice and focused, just use softer strokes outward above and below the corner to blend the highlighter into your eyelid. You can choose to smudge it, but I never do.
The inner corner of your eye is now bright and a little bit wow!
Secondly, and I got this awesome tip from a makeup artist on an AT&T shoot I did, use your highlighter to outline your eyeliner! You may already have a darker-than-usual eyeliner on for date night. Now, use the highlighter on the edge of that line. If you’re on the bottom of your eye, trace under the eyeliner, and if you’re on the top of your eye, trace above the eyeliner.
This is a subtle hit of WOW for date night. You can choose to just do the corner of your eye, just the corner and bottom line, or all of the tips above. I hope you love it as much as I do. Look closely at the image at the top of this post, and you can see the effects.
3. Darken your eyebrows.
I already have big, bushy, dark eyebrows that I’m constantly trying to tame (case in point, the “morning” pic I took!). But that doesn’t mean they don’t need some extra ooomph.
Using just a hint of brow powder can add drama to your eyes. Plus, it’s something people won’t easily notice. They’re like, “You look great!” But they’re not sure why. 😉
Look at my date night picture to see what a difference brow powder (and wax) makes! It’s a pretty big difference. But I don’t think it looks fake or scary. That’s the goal!
You will need brow powder, brow wax, and an angled brow brush. You can buy all of these separately, but I would opt for a brow kit like this one instead if this is new to you, as long as it has the right color for you.
Speaking of brow powder color, you want a color that is just a smidge lighter than your brow hair. My brow hairs are very dark brown, so I go for a medium brown (not blonde) brow powder. The color I use is Taupe by Smashbox. In fact, I highly recommend the Smashbox brow kits, which are specific to hair color. For these, you have to buy the brush separately.
Now, to apply the powder, dab the angled brush in the powder, then touch it to your brow just past the edge. You’re not trying to outline your brows, just add a little powder in the middle. Without adding more brow powder to the brush, blot the brush on your brow two more ticks up and to the right.
Once both eyebrows have powder, add wax to your brush, then use the brush to “comb down” the brows at the top. The wax should help any wild hairs stick to the ones that are better behaved.
And that’s it! Three easy steps to eyes ready for gazing!
What are your must-dos for date night? Do you have any extra tips for us?