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New Ways to Speak the Five Love Languages

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I need a translator. Stat.

For the sake of my marriage, someone please tell me how to speak nailguns and caulk and lawnmower repair.

Early in our marriage, I had a predominant love language called “gifts”. I enjoyed giving things to people, and I enjoyed receiving them as well.

My husband’s love languages were words of affirmation and touch. Obviously, I’m not very good at those. (That’s the rule about love languages, don’t you know: you can’t be great at your spouse’s.) My husband failed in the gift department, but at least we were square.

new ways to speak the five love languages

Somewhere along the way (ahem, kids), my love language morphed into acts of service. My husband still spoke words of affirmation and I still stank at that, but he has tried his best to become a physical servant…

And he’s excelling at it! So much so that I was thinking my husband wanted to work on a project to avoid me. Well, true to womanly form, I like to change my mind, and I think my love language is saying, “I give up on how clean the house is; just sit down and spend some time with me!”

His love languages haven’t changed. 😀

As I was browsing the Groupon Goods page, I noticed that you can actually find ways to speak every love language with the products there. No, not just gifts!!

When I browsed I noticed:

Gifts: Duh. There are gifts upon gifts upon gifts for every kind of person. PB2, anyone?

Acts of Service: Does your husband’s love language involve a home-cooked meal or a clean home? I saw pots and pans sets and tons of organizational products that will help you translate your love to his ears.

Quality Time:  My favorite way to spend time with my husband is by doing something fun and new, preferably outdoors. The main Groupon site is a great place to buy adventure tickets, but I also think it’s easy to make your own adventure! Grab a hydration pack for your fun day or take a hammock to the park for something more low key.

new ways to speak the five love languages

Touch: OK, so this one should be easy, but let’s spice things up!! Make sure to spray the poopouri and put on something special (both items are sold on Groupon Goods!) to make intimacy a priority.

Words of Affirmation: Use the Love Talk journal my husband and I have used in the past – especially if words are not your specialty. Basically, you trade a journal back and forth with a note to each other. Great for the busy couple. I saw this beautiful leather journal my husband would love.

new ways to speak the five love languages

Maybe I’m alone as a woman – does your love language change like mine seems to? My husband, so sure and steady, just has to keep up with me haha! Making him feel loved should be easy, but it’s certainly not my mother tongue. I always need fresh translation tools like this. Do you see any other Groupon good you would add to the list?

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Make Eye Contact with Your Husband (and Kids)

Make eye contact with your husband and kids

How much steady eye contact do you make with your husband – or even your kids?

I don’t think I make much at all, and I’ve been trying to improve so I can boost my oxytocin – you know, the wonderful hormone that helps us attach to our babies? Well, it is the same hormone that floods our system when we feel bonded with anyone.

Apparently, oxytocin makes us look into each other’s eyes more. The latest research hasn’t really attempted the reverse: Does looking into someone’s eyes increase your oxytocin or bond with them?

Regardless, we’re already bonded to our husband and children, so I’d bet my bottom dollar research would say that eye contact with our family members boosts our bonds with them.

Because betting your bottom dollar is super scientific.

So. All that to say, I’m taking the time to not break eye contact constantly.

Like when my husband comes home, and I’m cooking dinner? Yeah, that. I’m only glancing his way. Could I take even a solid minute to look him in the eyes and listen? Or even look while I’m talking?

Trust me, from a lover of all things delicious food, our marriages are worth way more than perfectly cooked dinner.

I shared some words of affirmation with him last night, and I had to talk myself up to looking him right in the eye and holding that gaze while I said it. Whew – why is that so hard!? Our connection was solidified.

The lover (bridegroom) in song of solomon tells his bride,

Turn your eyes from me; they overwhelm me. (Song of Solomon 6:5, NIV)

With my kids, I’ve been giving them more undivided eye attention, too. Having three kids means a very split attention span. They all want mommy for something, so when it’s their turn for my attention, I need to give it undivided.

That third baby that I’m worried will just have to hang along with everything? Eye contact.

That middle child who plays so well by herself because she has to? Eye contact.

That firstborn who loves one-on-one time because he started out mano a mano? Eye contact.

I’m turning my eyes back into my ears and my mouth, using them to listen and to speak.