Summer is coming quickly, and here in Austin, it gets H.O.T.! We pretty much wiggle between cold and hot with a very short lovely Spring.
And when it gets above 80 degrees, like it already has, it’s time to pull out the shorts and tank tops and flip flops! And don’t forget swimwear! But not the triangle bikini this summer, how about modest swimwear?
But how do you retain your modesty while still being fashionable? …Maybe I should start with the why first.
Why should I dress modestly?
Reason #1: Because it’s Biblical.
I also want the women to dress modestly, with decency and propriety, adorning themselves, not with elaborate hairstyles or gold or pearls or expensive clothes, but with good deeds, appropriate for women who profess to worship God. (1 Timothy 2:9-10, NIV)
In other words, our true beauty, even outwardly, comes from what overflows from the inside. If our focus is on the Lord and doing His will, then we are truly beautiful. There is no need for us to reveal ourselves physically in our dress.
Reason #2: Because I want to respect the men who see my daily.
Add to the above reason the fact that men are hard-wired as visual creatures, easily stimulated and tempted by what they see, and you can see the Biblical benefits for modest dress.
Is it ok, then, to dress fashionably?
Let’s look at the Proverbs 31 woman as an example:
When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. … She is clothed with strength and dignity; … Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. (Proverbs 31:21-22,25,30, NIV)
The Proverbs 31 woman dresses quite finely it seems, but if you read the rest of the chapter, you see what other magnificent things she accomplishes for the Lord – her husband is praised and respected in part because of her. Her family is abundantly taken care of. She is a savvy business woman. And more!
So if her fear of the Lord is overflowing into all of this business-savviness and care of her family, do you think she’s spending the majority of her time getting dressed in the morning? Do you think she’s thinking of a way to get away with showing a little skin? I don’t think so!
Since our beauty comes from our character and love of the Lord, it’s important that our dress be modest, pleasing to our husbands, and not the top priority in our lives.
With that being said, how do you dress in a way that honors the Lord (and your husband, if applicable), but is still fun and fashionable?
Here are my tips!
Dressing well is more about fit than wearing the most expensive or in-style pieces.
If your clothes fit well, they will appear more pricey and fashionable. This means it may take some time when you’re buying something at the store. You should try your clothes on before buying them! Otherwise, you will end up with clothes that just sort of fit. And you won’t feel good in them.
You can create great style by layering.
If you feel fashionaly incompetent, like I do sometimes, then always try to layer something. In other words, try to wear clothes not just off the rack.
For summer, how do you layer but still stay cool?
- choose the right fabrics: loose and light
- your bottom layer should be a tank or camisole
- your top layer should be something you can take off (with modesty) if needed
- embellish! Add a piece of flair to your outfit. For example, you can add a flower pin or use a light scarf to tie through your belt loops
- for the pool or waterpark – choose a tankini. They’re much easier to take off than a one-piece, and still super cute and modest.
Ask yourself if you would feel comfortable with your 10 year old daughter wearing this.
Ask yourself if you feel good.
You should be comfortable!
Ask your husband if he likes how you dress and feels respected by how you dress.
Now, here are some of my tips in action! I would have put these outfits on to show you the fit part of my tips, but I’m pregnant and don’t have many summer clothes yet!
Look at this cute tank.
On its own, it’s cute, but ho-hum. Now, layer it with a cool top layer, and add a fitted pencil skirt:
This outfit shows an example of layering plus embellishing. And yes – you can mix prints if one of them is treated like a “solid” 🙂
And my last example combines layering with tailored fit – these shorts were inexpensive but fit like they were tailored:
And bonus: half of the items above are from Target, so they’re affordable, and you won’t cry when the mac n cheese ruins them!
Obviously, my tips are not exhaustive. I could cover things like, Don’t wear words on your rear and Watch out for your bra straps. What tips would you add?
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