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Two Verses that will Change Your View of Your Husband

I don’t often think about how my husband views me; in fact, I’m confident in his love for me.

Maybe so confident that I neglect him. So confident that I don’t think about the temptations that surround him. Confident enough to shut my eyes and ears to how he serves me.
Change How You View Your Husband

I was literally startled when I read these verses in the Bible.

Like a lily among thorns
is my darling among the young women.

Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest
is my beloved among the young men. (Song of Solomon 2:2-3, NIV)

Am I like a lily among thorns to my husband?

That was the immediate question. And I knew the answer: I might be more like a thorn among thorns. 

Am I more like a thorn?

My husband is already in a patch of thorns!

  • the world’s troubles (John 16:33)
  • the curse of difficult work (Genesis 3:17)
  • bearing others’ burdens (Galatians 6:2)
  • his own sin nature (Romans 3:23)
  • among others!

When he sees me, does he see a lily? Am I:

  • a rare treat?
  • refreshing his eyes and soul?
  • soft and gentle?
  • lovely?

I long to be as a lily to my husband

To be perfectly honest, this verse is comparing Solomon’s bride to other women. My husband, like many, is surrounded by other women all the time! While I completely trust him, I want to be the woman that stands out from the crowd. 

What if I am more like a thorn among lilies?

Yes, he has a responsibility to serve and love me no matter what, but my marriage will be markedly more wonderful if I’m committed to making that responsibility a joy and a treasure.

Do I see my husband as a gift?

Imagine you’re walking through a forest, thick with huge trees. Vines, brambles, and shrubs cover the trunks of the trees and the ground on which you’re treading. Bugs are everywhere. Ducking under a branch, you wipe cobwebs from your face, and look up to see a clearing. In the middle of the clearing is one, single, random apple tree.

That’s the way I need to view my husband. Not random haha. No, he’s a find!

In fact, the bride says of her husband:

  • I feel safe with him and trust that he is capable (“I delight to sit in his shade.”)
  • Having sex with him is a sweet delight to me (“His fruit is sweet to my taste.”)
  • When we’re together in public, I’m happy to see how he treasures me (“Let him lead me to the banquet hall.”)

Can I say those things? Or instead, do I think:

  • My husband is like a child and truly needs my help. I can’t trust him to do anything right.
  • He disgusts me. OR, being intimate with my husband is the last thing I want to do.
  • I take every chance to belittle and tease my husband when we’re among others. If he pays me a compliment, I turn it back into an attack on him.

These two tiny verses are challenging me to see my husband as the gift that he is and to strive to be a lily among thorns for him!

Did these verses challenge you to view your husband differently?


A Teachable Heart

There’s been a little crazy going on in  my world. Not just the busyness of life but also heartache, anger, and the blues.

I think of myself as a teachable person, but for some reason, when things are troubling me, my teachability goes out the window. I know the truth, but I don’t want to hear it from anyone. I just want to soak in my misery.

I can hear God reminding me to have a teachable heart. Mark 4 reminds me of this. Jesus is teaching in parables, and he keeps ending with, “He who has ears to hear, let him hear.”

With many such parables he spoke the word to them, as they were able to hear it. He did not speak to them without a parable, but privately to his own disciples he explained everything. (Mark 4:33-34, ESV)

“as they were able to hear it” … I wonder if I am ABLE to hear God’s word, of if I am purposefully stuffing my ears shut.

[To the disciples] … “To you has been given the secret of the kingdom of God, but for those outside everything is in parables, so that ‘they may indeed see but not perceive, and may indeed hear but not understand, lest they should turn and be forgiven.'” (Mark 4:11-12, ESV)

A teachable heart opens ourselves up to God, even at the point of salvation. Which really makes sense, doesn’t it? At salvation, we’re finally saying, “OK God, Whomever You are. YOU are in charge, and I’m not. I get it. I want to submit my life to You!”

So as a believer, we start with a teachable heart, but how quickly do we close that teachability up? Maybe we’re following God for a season, and then when we don’t feel that ZING that salvation brought, we’re not excited about following anymore.

One of the parables Jesus teaches here is the parable of the sower, a man who cast seed in different types of soil and yielded corresponding types of fruit.

Which type of soil would you categorize your teachability in today (Mark 4:1-20)?

  • The path – the birds (Satan) quickly devoured the seed (I.e., you have not yet chosen Christ to rule your heart and life)
  • Rocky ground – the roots were shallow and immature, so the plant sprang up with joy and quickly died out
  • Thorns – the seedlings were choked out by the desires of the world
  • Good soil – the word was accepted and the crop yield was plentiful

I yearn to be the good soil, but lately I feel like the rocky ground. I pray, I read the Bible, I serve and talk with others about my faith. But they are quick jolts of joy. I’m hoping for gigantic fruit when I’m only watering once a week.

To be fair, I truly think anything we offer to God is pleasing to Him. But at the same time, I can’t ignore the calling of the Holy Spirit to nurture and protect and shore up the soil that His word is coming into.

Where are you with this today?